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    We're looking for a relative who disappeared a year ago, probably somewhere in Nth Thailand or Laos. He was in his late sixties, heavy set and neat, usually with large gold-rimmed glasses or wrap around sunglasses. He would also have worn a white floppy hat. We don't want to reveal the nationality as we don't want to upset the Embassy, which is also looking into it, but says that it is "overworked" with similar cases.
    He sent a lot of postcards from Thailand (he was not good with computers). He was there for just over a month. He wrote that he was going to Laos but no-one has received any news since. Has anyone heard anything? Two of us have already been to Thailand, but found no trace. He may well have been around Nong Khai area. The airlines can't help and, as I mentioned, the Embassy is run off its feet. All help appreciated.

    #1 Posted: 14/2/2013 - 06:26

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  • DLuek

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    Hi,

    There are many men in Thailand (and plenty in Nong Khai area) who fit that description. It seems strange that the embassy doesn't want you to release any details. Including a name, nationality and/or photo along with the description is necessary if you actually hope to get any leads.

    In any case, sorry to hear this.

    #2 Posted: 14/2/2013 - 07:38

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    I've been going to Nong Khai and surrounding areas, as well as Laos every year now. but like above, without a photo or something it might be hard to tell if we've seen him.
    Hope you find him and if there's a way to show a picture or something, people might be able to help a little more.

    #3 Posted: 14/2/2013 - 09:04

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    Thanks DLuek and svendj. Yes, I don't know why they are so sensitive (my brother has been dealing with them) over at the embassy. We took up the photos and stuff when we were there, but when my brother told them down in BKK, they turned nasty on him. I'll go back soon, and will try to hook up then. Thanks again for getting back.

    #4 Posted: 14/2/2013 - 16:02

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    If he was spending time in Nong Khai , it might not be a bad idea to take some photos to the Mut Mee Guest House. It's a long-time establishment in Nong Khai with numerous long-term and returning customers who are well-integrated in, and quite familiar with the ex-pat community. The community is relatively small compared to places like Bangkok and Udon Thani, but quite well-informed. And word-of-mouth travels quickly there.

    #5 Posted: 14/2/2013 - 21:22

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    on my last trip to Nong Khai there was also a string of expat bars called Sunset Strip about two miles (three km) downriver from town that might be a good place to ask around too.

    it seems odd that any western embassy would not assist one of their nationals abroad, so i wonder if there isn't more to this story than we've been told here. but if the embassy won't help, i might check in with the local police in nong khai too. they'd be in a good position to identify the person if they had come through town and if the person had been in any trouble.

    #6 Posted: 14/2/2013 - 23:01

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    Again, thanks to you Tilapia and exacto, for those hints. Most appreciated. When I go up I'll check those places out. I, too, am wondering if there isn't more to this story, although there was nothing unusual about him. Not that we know of, anyway.

    #7 Posted: 15/2/2013 - 08:25

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    for all the dedicated emb-scolders; Now explain then what an embassy COULD do at all. The only ''things'' Thai burocrazy MAY have is some reports of hotels of guesthss of their guests-nothing of that gets into any computer. But many of the cheapos do not even do that-fear of taxman coming. There is a duty of anyone on long-term stay to inform Thai immigration of adress at least every 3 month-but noone chases after those who do not. Even most land borders/entry/exit (the white forms) are not online or not at all easy to check-for just checking if this person has left TH to Laos-after all there are at least 12 possible crossings.
    I once heard TH in its records have around 20.000+ foreign western persons entering and never left (acc. to the statistics).

    #8 Posted: 16/2/2013 - 04:23

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    It's funny but there has been a guy kicking around here in Mukdahan for about a month now, maybe a bit longer, whom I've seen walking around who meets this description. He's always alone and as far as I know doesn't actually live here (the expat community is small and we usually all know each other). He is typically wearing knee length shorts, birkenstocks with socks (or some sandal like it) and a white boonie cap. I guess I've seen him half a dozen times or so. I suppose it's possible it's the same guy.

    #9 Posted: 16/2/2013 - 05:40

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    Great fashion sense.

    #10 Posted: 16/2/2013 - 05:53

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    Thanks MADMAC. Although it doesn't sound like him - he was paranoid about skin cancer and always wore longs - you never know... If you saw him again, it would be great if you could get more info. Don't want to create problems for you, though. Is there any way you can contact me? I don't think that I am allowed to put up a personal email on this forum, am I?

    #11 Posted: 16/2/2013 - 09:21

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    @MADMAC - in an offline message tipalia sent to me, he mentioned seeing someone similar during his recent visit to mukdahan. i wondered if it wasn't the same guy too. it would have been easy enough for the guy to drift down river from nong khai to mukdahan.

    @Q&A - i can't see that it is fair for you to ask anyone to approach this person without you first providing a name and a photo at the very least. hopefully you can get in touch with MADMAC outside of the forum to provide this information. good luck. that would be something really special if it turned out to be your guy.

    #12 Posted: 16/2/2013 - 11:06

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    Hi everyone who helped. Sorry about this, but I've been told to pull my head in. My bignote London city sister has "instructed solicitors" blah blah and I've been directed to "desist" blah blah. First they ask for my help, and now... Bizarre is not the word. One day, I hope to get to the bottom of this. Thanks to all!

    #13 Posted: 17/2/2013 - 10:48

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    PS @exacto, exactly! I wasn't going to ask MADMAC to do anything without giving him more details, but I could not do that here, which is why I wondered how he could contact me, given that his messaging was not enabled. In any event, it's all theoretical now, as I've been grounded.

    #14 Posted: 17/2/2013 - 10:51

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    Strange story. Why lawyers? Must owe some money to someone.

    #15 Posted: 17/2/2013 - 19:10

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