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Lonely in Paradise!! (currently on Koh Samui travelling Thailand, Malaysia, Oz & South Africa)

  • jenny_wicke-

    Joined Travelfish
    29th May, 2009
    Posts: 2

    I’ve been in Thailand for over 3 weeks now and the only peeps I have met were on 2 week holidays or not actually travelling (eg working there or at the end of travels!).
    I’m starting to feel really down, been out on my own a few times but feeling really sad eating and drinking alone. I’ve been up to peeps and had a chat, given out my number and even tried to arrange meet ups on here but nothing seems to come right. Is it me!!!?
    So many people tell me how easy it is to meet other travellers but I feel like the first person to be an exception to that rule. Its really upsetting me! Am I the only one?
    Are there any nice people out there who wouldn’t mind me joining them? I’m currently on Kho Samui wondering weather to bugger off to Chiang Mai or try my luck in the crazy hedonistic island of Koh Phangan? I’m not overly into getting shit faced any more but I do like a drink. Was hoping that I would meet peeps B4 so that I would have some guys to party with but I’m hoping it would be easy to meet nice peeps while I’m there???? Any comforting advice out there? Anyone else been through simular? Anyone around who fancies some company? I’m not a crazy (well only when it helps lol), just a bit shy when it comes to meeting new people. Also on facebook Jenny-Louise Wickett in the Midlands group.
    Or can catch me on under Lolas_smile

    #1 Posted: 29/5/2009 - 18:42

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  • chrispyrolls

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    Joined Travelfish
    2nd November, 2006
    Location United Kingdom
    Posts: 198
    Total reviews: 4

    Hi Jenny,

    Sorry to hear you are not having a good time - i had a similar experience in South America some years ago. I was travelling with friends and we then went off in different directions due to time contraints... anyway after a few days of feeling down and lonely, i realised that i was on a great trip... and focussed on that instead of being on my own. I took time to really reflect on things, and investigate everything that was around me. In doing this i realised alot about myself, and also that i was in an amazing country (Peru)... and who needed people?

    Sure it's good to talk to people, which it sounds like you are getting to do, but do you really want to have to follow someone else around to have fun? What if you ended up tagging along with someone, only to realise you couldn't get away? ... a right pain that is trust me!

    Just kick back, enjoy everything Thailand has to offer - getting out of your comfort zone a little may help... don't worry too much about things... it could be worse... you could be back in blighty stuck beind a desk... oh no ... that's me :-)

    #2 Posted: 30/5/2009 - 00:37

  • khunger

    Joined Travelfish
    30th May, 2009
    Posts: 6
    Total reviews: 3

    Posted from within Vietnam.

    Hey Jenny!

    Vineet from India here - been backpacking solo around Cambodia and Vietnam for the last 20 days, and landing in Thailand on 1 June, and heading off to Ko Tao / Ko Pha Ngan . I'm planning on doing a dive course on Ko Tao first and then 3-4 days on Ko Pha Ngan - maybe go for the FMP if I meet some fun people beforehand, otherwise just chill out on Haad Yao or something. Will get there and figure. So far, I've just been meeting fellow travelers along the way and had quite a fun trip.

    If you're planning on being in either of KPN or Ko tao around Jun 2-8, drop me a line at khunger at gmail dot com, and we could catch up for a beer!

    #3 Posted: 30/5/2009 - 12:44

  • Skimonkey

    Joined Travelfish
    16th April, 2009
    Posts: 40

    Hi Jenny

    I'm starting my 3rd week in Thailand, Currently in Chang Mai, met some great people so far from all over the world. But on my tod today it's fab how quickly things can change. I got here last night sun 31st May, and went to the night market, which was fantastic so far I've been on my own and as chrispyrolls says just loose yourself in the local atmosphere for a few hours and you'll soon find your in a much better mood. I've added you as a friend on Facebook (assuming I have found the right person) I'm the one with red hair and tiger make-up. Drop me a line if your still feeling low.

    take it easy.

    #4 Posted: 1/6/2009 - 14:41

  • anorris5

    Joined Travelfish
    2nd June, 2009
    Posts: 1

    Hey Jenny! I'll be out there in two weeks myself & was wondering what your next plans were. You end up finding any travel companions?

    Hit me up at if you're gonna be traveling around the mainland (i.e. if you're planning on leaving the thai islands)


    #5 Posted: 14/6/2009 - 09:09

  • andwhat

    Joined Travelfish
    12th August, 2009
    Posts: 5

    hi jenny let me know if your still out in se asia somewhere i to could do with a travel companion im in bangkok now but wanting/ going to move on very soon drop back on this or my email don't be too down :-) andrew

    #6 Posted: 14/8/2009 - 11:14

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